Everyone right now, like it or not, is in some level of grief. To live in a higher frequency of 5D requires that we transform many aspects, thoughts, behaviors, and physical factors of our minds, lives and bodies. This means a process, not a quick change, to the new you. If often involves release of pent-up emotion that is always connected to the old way of being.
Change requires loss.
Destruction precedes creation.
We must let go of that which is no longer serving us.
Jump In, Face Forward, Don’t Look Back.
Take each loss and morph it into a lesson.
Believing you must stay in the energy of sadness is not what the person, or animal would want. Learn from what their life was trying to tell you because the lesson was sent and if you are too long sad, then you didn’t receive the message they were trying to send you.
See it, embrace it.
The purpose for time after the loss is to allow the lesson to surface. Take the time, no matter what it costs you. It will heal you and be worth a lifetime of love.
In Chinese Medical theory, there are five elements which help us heal and understand the healing process as it moves through the seasons of each year: Water, Wood, Earth, Fire and Metal, with Autumn being the time of the Metal element. Each element corresponds to a set of organ structures in the body. The Metal element corresponds to the lungs and large intestine. The emotional correspondent is sadness but understanding this element and how it influences are healing process is much deeper. This is the most misunderstood of the 5 elements. Autumn, with all its richness of color in the landscape, beckons us into the reflection about our sadness; our losses in life, whether or not you have had major loss, such as the death of the loved one or loss of health, or any number of losses we experience as human beings in our day-to-day existence.
Autumn teaches us about the impermanence of life and what we have valued and lost and begs the question; What are my values in this life, and do I live them or just imagine I live them? The warmth, brightness and multi-colors of leaves falling from the trees help us to re-evaluate, where we are going with our life’s purpose and whether we need adjustments to create a better version of who we think we are, how we behave to be and live more authentically. Few of us truly can say we know ourselves until much later in life, after we have gone through many seasons and emotional, mental, and spiritual growth via the understanding we develop about our losses in life. There is always a reason for a loss and a lesson in the loss IF we allow ourselves to receive the gift of this process.
We are especially affected by the change of Summer into Autumn the older we become. We have had increasing losses and so with every new loss, we reflect more deeply about the Value in our lives. We might feel lonely, as the sun sets earlier each day. We might feel the emptiness within us from a loss we have more recently experienced.
To become new, to rebirth or birth something new, something old must be let go. All of us are working to birth a new consciousness of being in 5D. Loss and grief will be abundant as we move through this transition. Slow down, be in the grief and let it teach you. The Spring of 2021 will be a big, bright beautiful one if we allow all the losses, unresolved from the past or present to become lessons which transform our minds and bodies.
Recently, I experienced a loss whose impact I could not have anticipated and at first, underestimated. I learned that a dear former co-worker of mine had been ill and passed away before I had the chance to say thank you to her and goodbye before she crossed over. I had seen her a few times since departing from the place we were both employed and the last time I saw her I could tell something wasn’t right about her. But I knew our belief systems about health and the mind-body connection were not similar and so I did not speak of my intuitive insight about her or what she might do to heal the imbalances I could sense in her. We lost touch after that. My first feeling when I heard of her passing was a sense of guilt and grief for not knowing she was ill. But I am still a work in progress and Angela still had one more lesson to share.
Since I learned of her passing, after meditating and defusing on the emotional and physical pain I felt, I have realized what she meant to me during the 7 years we worked together. As she was 20 years my senior, and I an immature 22-year-old, Angela taught me about professionalism, in the first “real” job I ever had. She reinforced and grew my understanding of a strong work ethic, which I still employ today. She helped me grow into the brave professional I am today, by encouraging my strengths and for that I am grateful.
I valued Angela; she was a part of helping me grow up. I have come through my remorse about not being a part of her life as it ended. I had changed so much that last time I saw her, I barely recognized her or me in the relationship we once had. There was little to no common ground except the past we shared 25 years ago. But that doesn’t mean that I don’t love her for all she was then and now. She was a beautiful, heartwarming, integral and “sparkling” lady. We both had such a tremendous work ethic which may have been some of the reason I didn’t take the time to track her down and stay in touch these last years of her life. My head is so much in my work of healing people that I missed something of potential value, her presence in my current life.
The lesson for me, yet again, is to slow down and take stock and at least stay in touch via Skype or the phone, no matter how exhausted I might be from my work. It has made me reassess and revalue the friends I have in my life; to take the time to share a quite bite to eat now and then, especially during those times when life seems to move too quickly, and time gets away from us. Lesson received.
Grief is a good thing. It is a motivating factor to improved relationships with our selves and others. Grief is transformational and not meant to keep us stuck in it for years or decades. Autumn with all its glorious color can help us with that. My relationship with Angela will always, now, help me remember the value of friends, past and present, in a new and enriched light, for they all have added a sparkling colorful facet to who I am today. Thank you, Angela, for the gems you found and brought out in me, you were a diamond in my life and for that I will be forever grateful.
Author: Bethann Vetter
Bethann Vetter is a Holistic Therapist, Medium and Teacher. She uses frequency balancing tools via her Mediumship in Trance skills to locate and provide the frequencies your unique set of imbalances requires. She uses her own subtle energy body technique, Epigenetic Reprogramming to help you clear subconscious level blocks. Frequency Specific Microcurrent is used for specific cellular level healing. Classes are available in active meditation skills such as mediumship and trance healing skills. Trance Healing sessions called QHHT© are also offered. Her frequency balancing ability works similar to the way Edgar Cayce worked. She tunes in to your issues and provides you with the necessary information, substances you might need as well as adjusting your frequency to a higher harmonic level. Her work is done by appointment only at a distance or in her office in Jacksonville Beach, FL.