It’s been a rough summer for me, and, as it turns out, for a great many people. There must be some universal teaching going on with great intensity this year.
Everyone, I am certain has their own learning curve from their life drama this summer but for me, however, I’ve learned that families are not what our belief system “shoulds” tell us they are. I’ve learned that just because your parents taught values of goodness, truth, kindness, fairness, helping one another, and all the values that fit in the “love” category, does NOT mean that all their children learn and live them. I have two siblings. One of them lives the antithesis of these values when I attempt every day to live them. The other one is living on the edge of emotional stability. I wonder how these two people raised by the same people, in the same house during the same twenty years could be so unbelievably different from me.
My mother died this summer on June 9. It was quite an ordeal. It was not a graceful death by any means. My brothers, both younger than I, were clearly not available to work with me during or in the aftermath. The youngest one is telling me how to not be emotional about her death. The other one was doing dastardly things in the name of entitlement. Who are these people? They aren’t the people I thought they were. They are, jaded, hardened and hard-hearted.
I’m finally writing in this blog because I have come out of the tunnel on the other side and am accepting that while I still have biological brothers, I clearly do not and have not had brothers of mind and spirit. It’s been a terrible shock because I was living an illusion that families are there to help us and comfort us and help us solve some of life’s tougher problems because they are blood kin and therefore care the most of anyone else on the earth for us. This was such an enormous delusion it caused me great suffering as I was realizing it.
This truth is just a further development of the larger truth I’ve been growing to learn and live. It fits well into the universal laws of life. Our parents and our siblings are our teachers of the deeper lessons of life. They are a largest mirrors of truth that help us see our deepest flaws.
My deepest flaw, at the moment, is that I believe too much in the goodness of people. I did not want to believe that my family could or would set out to bring harm to me. But since I know I am flawed, I must realize they are too and therefore capable of anything that goes against the values I learned from my parents and the universal truths of life. This really means that I was expecting them to protect me and when ever I was with them I could expect honest and kind treatment.
This has not caused me to become suspicious of people but to begin to focus more deeply on my life and not expect or rely on anyone for anything ever. The kindness and good treatment brought to me by others will only be the icing on the cake of my life. I have always done my best to treat others with kindness and if I couldn’t because I felt unwell I avoided interaction.
There IS light at the end of the tunnel and that light shines from inside me!
Author: Bethann Vetter
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