Do you have a past relationship that has caused you some pain? Do you do your best to keep the thoughts of that time, person or situation far away from your thoughts? Is it complicated in that the person you have issues with is a close relative or spouse that you whole-heartedly love? Have you had one failed romantic relationship after the next? Do you keep attracting negative people into your life with whom you must end relationship? Do you have physical ailments that, while controlled, won’t go away and you want it to? Do you have a current relationship that you wish was better but it seems like it won’t heal no matter how much counseling you and they have but you don’t want to give up on it or end it? Do you sabotage relationships unintentionally? Does an irrational feeling of guilt get in the way of making good choices for yourself or your adult child?
Most of us can answer yes to at least one of the above questions. This is because as a culture most of modern humanity has minimized, rationalized, ignored, denied, or otherwise suppressed anything “bad” that has ever happened to them. While it does not help to dwell on negative things, situations, or people on a day to day basis, in the context of a session with me, these negative feelings and emotions from past events, will become the diamonds you never thought you would ever have in your life.
The thing about these unresolved emotions is that the fascia–which is the plastic wrap around every tissue, organ, muscle and fiber of your body–in your body stores them. They then act like a magnet attracting lovers, friends, clients, patients, bank tellers, check-out clerks, bosses, even sons and daughters we give birth to, to help us bring the unresolved emotions to our attention. The younger we are the easier it is for our body-mind to push through the problems and people we attract by these non-conscious unresolved negative emotions stored in our fascia.
When we are young our hormones are strong giving us lots of energy but also makes us believe that one situation that occurred a month ago is different than the one that just happened yesterday simply because the people involved are different or maybe they aren’t. We push through by just avoiding that person or maybe we even relocate our lives to another state or region because things just don’t seem “to be working out for us” here. We don’t see connections between all of our “bad” events or people in our lives because we are blinded by our hormones and our youthful ambition and drive to attain the American Dream and find “The One”.
Then, when we do find “The One” and settle down, once the early relationship hormones finally stop cycling– and they always do– this is when once again we see problems in our lives but fail to connect them to the problems we had prior to getting married and having children. But they are the same old problems and situations in a different package. These areas of unresolved feelings stored in our fascia will continue to rear their ugly heads until we make the choice to not just consciously examine them but to use a system that the brain needs to release them.
The older we are the less surge of our hormones and more complicated our lives have become with family, friends or career. Sometimes due to our feelings of futility with a situation we may have compromised our integrity and so the area where the original stress was stored deepens and begins to effect more surface area of the body or mind creating chronic physical or mental/emotional distress. The older we are the more likely we are to resign ourselves that certain things in our lives will never change but this is only because we have lived through 20-30 years of not seeing that one “bad” event or ended relationship is actually directly connected to the previous one down to the original stressful event. The older we are the more likely we are to assume or believe it is a fact that we must live with certain physical problems or relationship problems. Not so.
Young or old these unresolved emotions will reek havoc in our lives in a deepening and broadening manner over the course of our lives. In order stop and slow this process of deepening stress, we all need to embrace a process on a recurring basis that gives us the thorough resolve and release to the non-conscious negative emotions stored in our bodies. There isn’t a human on earth without something in their past that bothers them. If you can’t consciously remember anything, it is not that something hasn’t happened. Our brains are designed to help us forget by creating patterns that cause us to make choices to perpetuate the suppression of the stored negative emotion.
That part of our brain that helps us suppress is only concerned with survival, not with happiness, enjoyment or peace. So when things aren’t happy, enjoyable or peaceful with people, your body, or events in your life and they haven’t been for a while, you can rest assured that there are layers of unresolved emotions needing healing.
There are more and more practitioners out there who claim to get to “root cause” or clear up subconscious patterns but unless they are by passing your belief systems talking to all levels of you, including those that do not have vocal cords, while simultaneously helping you examine your day to day choices and how the original event (s) relate thereto, you will not get complete release of the fascia or bothersome feelings. The brain needs a process to release at multiple levels energetically and physically at the same time. Receiving bodywork using myofasical release can begin to release some of the emotion but unless the day to day choices and emotions from the original event (s) are connected to each other, parts of the emotions will stay stored or move to other areas and the fascia stays wound up.
Energetic healing, when done with a “belief-system-by-pass” process, not just a healing event, resolves physically rooted problems as well as relational issues because when you change the stored, non-conscious energy patterns in the body you effect every cell’s health as well as what they are magnetized to attract.
Changing attraction ability and resolving relationship issues is done by unlayering the unresolved negative emotion stored in the body. Once one event has occurred long ago and there have been others since, they become a tangled web that cannot be unraveled all at once. This is because your belief systems and behaviors have been altered and built upon survival mode that was created with the first event and built on with each additional related event. Your body will simply not make those kinds of changes all at once because it would be equivalent to “pulling the rug out from under you”. In a way our body-mind uses the past stressful emotional events as a life raft of survival. For most of us, though we would prefer not to live like this, we cannot “see” our way out due to the blinding set up by our brain the moment a negative emotional event occurs. This is why when we try to make changes we often do okay for a while and then it all falls apart.
Layer by layer in and after each session with me, your body changes and your choices change with ease. New choices made in the direction of what you want to experience instead of what you have experienced are easy to make and stay with. Layer by layer you uncover the diamonds that you never knew were there. These diamonds are gifts to yourself in ways that you could not have imagined. Yes, you reap the rewards of bettering the relationship and unburdening yourself from the pain of past hurts but there is a greater reward that is revealed to you.
The prizes, gifts or gems are given to you as you pass each milestone of internal corrective work as well the choices to back it up. I cannot even begin to list the numbers of things that are given above and beyond what you are asking for. I learned, for instance, that I had artistic talent, at the age of 49, of drawing and painting. I cannot imagine my life without this now for the happiness, enjoyment ,and peace it brings me but this is only one of many gifts that have been revealed and given to me.
There is no reason, whatsoever, to think that you have live with a broken relationship, pain or despair from your past or present, or chronic physical problems. Some energetic patterns are easier to fix than others but any work with these areas of unresolved emotions does serve you in that moment and as you move through time. It is you that must make the choice to be better. The processes and techniques I use will, without a doubt, bring you more than you asked for.
If you can answer yes to any of the questions at the beginning of this post, contact me help you unveil the beauty of living a happier, more enjoyable and peaceful life!
Author: Bethann Vetter
Bethann Vetter is a Holistic Therapist, Medium and Teacher. She uses frequency balancing tools via her Mediumship in Trance skills to locate and provide the frequencies your unique set of imbalances requires. She uses her own subtle energy body technique, Epigenetic Reprogramming to help you clear subconscious level blocks. Frequency Specific Microcurrent is used for specific cellular level healing. Classes are available in active meditation skills such as mediumship and trance healing skills. Trance Healing sessions called QHHT© are also offered. Her frequency balancing ability works similar to the way Edgar Cayce worked. She tunes in to your issues and provides you with the necessary information, substances you might need as well as adjusting your frequency to a higher harmonic level. Her work is done by appointment only at a distance or in her office in Jacksonville Beach, FL.