I used to believe that suffering was unnecessary.  Perhaps it is, but I have learned that humans have part of their brain that has been conditioned to change only through suffering. We could change through motivation by love but that hasn’t worked for most people. But if we find ourselves suffering in pain, physical or emotional, it means, our consciousness is trying to move us forward through a pattern of behavior that has kept us stuck in a reality that doesn’t reflect who we are and what we actually need and want, but can’t see.   Only women who have given birth know that you have to push into/ with the pain to birth the child.  Most people when they have pain, recoil from it, or seek to address it with pain pills or other pain suppressors.

I believe we can actually learn and change through observation so as to avoid suffering.  It seems though, in order to make those deeper changes, the ones we don’t realize or resist making, our mind-body might cause us pain as a way to stop us from moving forward because it’s afraid of the change. If the pattern of behavior is there long enough and we think we are comfortable with it, maybe we have gotten too comfortable. The only constant in the Universe is change. But our bodies, and living life in the enslavement narrative for time immemorial, resist change the older we become in this body.


We have to use firm gentleness to prod our mind-body out of its rut of resistance and sometimes that might feel painful at first as if you are moving through mud or a wall of resistance which brings an ebb and flow of pain as you take each step forward.  We don’t need to medicate it, but if it does get intense. then use some means to ease it — not eliminate it.  Its presence is acting like a barometer of your progress. Continuing to move forward is the only true freedom from the rut and the pain of the pattern into a better place you never dreamed you needed and wanted.  It is your consciousness that keeps you moving your body forward, driving down the road or making new choices regarding toxic relationships. So ease the pain, but align and focus on what your consciousness is telling you to do, even if the whole picture of it hasn’t come into focus.

Let go of the fear of the new 

Part of the reason for the pain is the fear of the unknown life or feeling without the toxic relationship or new pattern of living.  Our brains have been taught familiarity is better than unknown, even if that familiarity isn’t really the best we deserve, can have or be.  So the pain becomes intense in an effort to stop you from moving forward.  Again, birthing mothers know how hard this is — to push into the pain.  The mother knows she is going to see her baby so that makes the process a tiny bit easier. But, when we are birthing less tangible things into being, we often aren’t shown the whole picture and so we have to connect deeply into the consciousness of ourselves and be led, making the pain the secondary, lesser part of the process, until we have moved enough into the “new” that the brain stops the pain because it has become educated that new isn’t bad, it’s actually better than ever.

Awareness of Ancestral Pain is Healing

The trick is to become aware of the pain, acknowledge it and soothe it without it stopping you completely.  The focus of the mind has to be on what you are feeling drawn to doing, being, having even if you just have a sense of it without actual understanding or images, while allowing the pain to have it’s voice until that part of the brain producing the pain is reconditioned to the new place, new pattern, or new way of being.  When the baby is born, the mother’s pain disappears, and so it is when we birth the new way, pattern or state of being.

When moving forward into what you are being drawn to produces pain that doesn’t make sense to you, it is usually coming from ancestral patterns of behavior stored in the tissue.  This is the epigenetic memory attempting to stop you from “making the same mistake” when that event or trauma happened to an ancestor and it has no bearing on your present life. That doesn’t mean it doesn’t have significance.  It’s trying to make you aware of your process and progress and even connecting you to the ancestor to tap into and open a power you share with them.  Having tools to help you remember what happened to that ancestor enriches your life and forward progress.

It’s a whole new way of living life to make sure our choices are motivated by love and fascination rather than by attempts at pain avoidance or because we want to end pain of some sort.  Choosing to move my home because I need to run from a situation associated with the home is a completely different intent than choosing to move my home because I’m fascinated and drawn to a new way of living and being.  Complacency is something that creates pain because it prevents the Universal Law of Change from operating.  We have to find a way to hook our hearts into the new way of life so we can be drawn deeper into it, so that the painful existence and the physical pain it brought to us can literally vanish.

Must we have pain and suffering?

I still say no, for the most part, unless you have been resistant to change through observation, motivated by pain, not love, and are not connected with and relating to your ancestors.  Pain has come from thousands of years of enslavement, that included a belief in pain which has kept us from becoming totally sovereign, self knowing, empowered, enlightened and from connecting to galactic communities and intelligence. There is life beyond this earth which is not suffering or working to solve suffering.  They are living lives of freedom.  Exactly what that looks like I don’t know, because we have all had such focus in this life on earth for generations to avoid pain and suffering. Think about it.  It really does take up a good deal of life — to the profit of those who have run this earth community. 

We are free, we are one

As we liberate ourselves from our pain that has been stored in the tissues of our bodies going back generations, we FREE ourselves to that peaceful existence we all, regardless of sex, race, and religion, want.  We are all ONE because we want the same thing.  We want peace.

Once we have that peace and it’s consistent, what then? Some might say that scares them, too, but I feel a flow of ease that I crave when I feel and imagine that space of peace.  I know non-terrestrial higher intelligences have days filled with things they do, but what are they?  My brain is not yet to the point where it can perceive those joys and that level of freedom. But this is where I think we are headed with the earth’s rise in frequency, which is causing us to drop our pain and suffering so we CAN become part of a FREE Universe and Galaxy of intelligent life that can show us how life really can be nothing but joy and fascination.

What is the potential of life beyond suffering?

What fills our days? I encourage you to dream of the possibilities.  My mind goes to artistic painting and being in nature but those are earthly joys.  What else could there be? I am certain there are other positively mind altering, fascinating things to do when life is no longer about pain and suffering.  I am placing my heart and intention on peace and the ease and fascination that will inevitably follow. What about you?

Author: Bethann Vetter

Bethann Vetter is a Holistic Therapist, Medium and Teacher. She uses frequency balancing tools via her Mediumship in Trance skills to locate and provide the frequencies your unique set of imbalances requires. She uses her own subtle energy body technique, Epigenetic Reprogramming to help you clear subconscious level blocks. Frequency Specific Microcurrent is used for specific cellular level healing. Classes are available in active meditation skills such as mediumship and trance healing skills. Trance Healing sessions called QHHT© are also offered. Her frequency balancing ability works similar to the way Edgar Cayce worked. She tunes in to your issues and provides you with the necessary information, substances you might need as well as adjusting your frequency to a higher harmonic level. Her work is done by appointment only at a distance or in her office in Jacksonville Beach, FL.
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