Being in a teaching-oriented profession, I am always paying attention to the themes of inquiry by my clients. These are the areas that they are either not asking about and therefore are the missing pieces to their sessions or areas they ask questions about the most. Recently the topic is about reactions and how to determine if you are having one. My clients are teaching me that understanding what a reaction is isn’t so obvious.
Our culture has taught us to control our reactions so that we have come to believe that if we aren’t having a meltdown in public, we must be okay since we are controlling ourselves. This is not a black and white subject. Since it is our inner world that dictates what we attract and create and how we relate to our outer world, we have look deeper than whether or not we are able to control our reactions in the presence of others.
We most certainly have a choice about how we behave, whether we react and what we say. And this is an important part of learning to live with and relate to other creatures. However, simply being in control of those reactions doesn’t do anything to help us understand why we had the reaction, that we had to control, in the first place.
Okay, so what IS a reaction? Defining a reaction means we have to first look at the continuum that creates the range of reactions.
- Let’s start with the larger scale reaction type.This is the one we most know about and is the one we are all taught from a young age is completely unacceptable, especially in public. This is the one that looks like the two year old melting down in a supermarket about not getting something he/she wants. It is also like the adult engaged in “road rage” or in screaming obscenities at the customer service representative because they aren’t getting what they need from a service.
- Next down from that are people who want to react like the two year old or drive like a nut, but suppress the desire because they have conditioned themselves well enough to “hold their tongue”. Is that the end of the story, though? No. Just because we don’t allow ourselves the verbal or other physical expression of the impulse to have the reaction, doesn’t mean that the reaction didn’t exist or that you’ve won the battle over your reactions. It just means you have the strength of mind to keep it to yourself.
- The next level down on the continuum of reactions are the ones where we feel a “vibe” that seems to be off kilter in our opinion and perception. This is still considered a reaction, even though there wasn’t anything loud or otherwise demonstrative about it.
- The next level down are the reactions we don’t recognize consciously because of our individual perceptive view of the situation. So, how could these be considered a reaction if we don’t know we are having them? They are in fact reactions because our inner world is recognizing something but it’s not a conscious process yet. We are deep, multifaceted beings with awareness levels above and beyond our conscious thinking minds.
It is the “not noticed” reactions that produce, for example, a queasy feeling that our mind will immediately associate with something we ate or some other exterior source. It is these barely noticed reactions that eventually become recurrent constipation or indigestion or some other recurring illness that cultural mindset has us believe is just a normal part of being human, which in the paradigms I work in, is not a universal truth.
“Not dealt with reactions” where ever they live on the continuum of reactions, accumulate and together with the reactions that we suppress eventually produce a physical symptom if we don’t acknowledge and deal with them in the process of reflection about our lives and the behaviors they are producing.
In summary, reactions are any negative feeling that your body-mind spontaneously has, whether or not you physically act them out.
The work I do helps us all use these reactive feelings as a portal into the inner world’s gold mine of knowledge to help us evolve ourselves to where we really want to be. I see that those of us who can process and release the subtleties of these feelings in a kinesthetic way are those that heal chronic symptoms or prevent them and more importantly get their lives to a better place.
Understanding our inner world’s signals and learning from them to self correct is the value of paying attention to our reactions big or small.
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Author: Bethann Vetter
Bethann Vetter is a Holistic Therapist, Medium and Teacher. She uses frequency balancing tools via her Mediumship in Trance skills to locate and provide the frequencies your unique set of imbalances requires. She uses her own subtle energy body technique, Epigenetic Reprogramming to help you clear subconscious level blocks. Frequency Specific Microcurrent is used for specific cellular level healing. Classes are available in active meditation skills such as mediumship and trance healing skills. Trance Healing sessions called QHHT© are also offered. Her frequency balancing ability works similar to the way Edgar Cayce worked. She tunes in to your issues and provides you with the necessary information, substances you might need as well as adjusting your frequency to a higher harmonic level. Her work is done by appointment only at a distance or in her office in Jacksonville Beach, FL.